bottomjared wrote the very well-intentioned:
Hey! So, Coming Out Day is coming up soon (Oct. 11) and I just want to post a very stern reminder to NOT out anyone without their explicit permission. Do NOT out anyone. Got it? Okay.
And then pondprincen chimed in with this diamond in the rough:
this is also a less important point, but still worth noting: DO NOT “come out” as an ally. don’t you dare.
Are you fucking kidding me?
Let me put this into perspective for the kids. My big gay wedding just happened to occur on October 11th. No intent. It just happened that way because of Ben’s mother’s schedule and her required 3000 mile journey to Sausalito.
Would you like to know who brought it to my attention at the reception with the live Klezmer band that it was National Coming Out Day? A 60-year-old Muslim woman with her head covered even as she danced with unbridled vigor to “Gimpel The Fool” and “Dem Rebens Tanz.”
If “allies” - or, as I like to say, decent human beings - want to use National Coming Out Day as a public show of solidarity, then please do so at your pleasure and mine. And I hope you’ll just ignore these self-destructive, whiney little children.
Every public ally is gold gold gold.